Love is not a feeling

Love is not a feeling. What? You cry, of course, love is a feeling. I feel it in my chest, stomach and my body tingles at times. Yes, those are the physiological manifestations when one has the feeling of "falling in love."

The fall in love and love are two different phenomena. Falling in love can be a flash of emotion or a first step towards true love. "Love is understood as an emotion, is a state of consciousness, a way of being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others." -David R. Hawkins

Falling in love is a strong instinctive attraction to a person. If it is mutual and both people work in your relationship, that one day the experience of euphoria called "love", can grow in true love.

Falling in love is the so-called phenomena of his desire to belong, to cathect, but the object is instinctually chosen according to our ideals, dreams, etc, although you may not realize. Usually fall in love with the appearance of the person, how he / she walks, the way he / she speaks. Sometimes attributed to our object of love an illusion mystical ideal qualities and the more you know the person unless we fall for him or her. It was then that the feeling of love disappears faster than it looked.

The other two are known, the more comfortable you get, the less sharp, bright and exciting experience of falling in love is. Some couples continue their relationship and marry, others crumble. It is reasonable to say that more clothes in the closet and one more toothbrush in the bathroom is the end of the fall in the stage of love, but can also be the beginning of genuine love.

The feelings of euphoria we call "love" is the emotion that accompanies the experience of cathecting. Cathecting is the process by which an object becomes important for one person. Once invested, the object, often referred to as a 'love object' is invested with our energy as if it were a part of oneself, and this relationship between oneself and the object of investing is called investiture. Investiture one can be fleeting and momentary. Genuine love implies commitment and the exercise of wisdom. When you worry about someone's spiritual welfare and emotional growth, it is known that the lack of commitment is likely to be harmful and commitment that this person is probably a need to express the concern of self-efficacy. The concern and commitment to another spiritual and emotional growth is the purest form of love. It is for this reason that the commitment is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship, friends, loved ones, the husband / wife.

True love transcends the issue of investiture. When love does exist with or without investment and with or without a feeling amorous outbursts of butterflies in the stomach, body tingling, etc.

It is easier, in fact, is a stimulant for love with the endowment and the euphoria of love. However, it is possible to love without investment and without feelings of love, and is in compliance with the possibility of true love and transcendent is distinguished from simple investiture. Genuine love is volitional rather than emotional euphoria. The person who truly loves does so because of "a decision of love." This person is committed to 'be love', whether or not feelings of love are present.

It can be difficult and painful to look for evidence of love in their actions, but because true love is an act of will that transcends ephemeral feelings of love or investment, we can say, "Love is like love." The love and not love, like good and evil are not merely objective and subjective phenomena.